Your Questions: Tantra, Sacred Sexuality, Sex Coaching and this website
- What is this site about?
- What do you offer?
- What is Tantra?
- What is Sacred Sexuality?
- Who are the practitioners?
- What do they do?
- Are they trained?
- Do you work with couples?
- Do I need a partner to learn tantra?
- What can I learn in a session that I can’t get from a book or DVD?
- What should I expect from a private session?
- Do you offer coaching by phone?
- Can I get help with sexual problems?
- Should I work with a man, a woman or a couple?
- What is the cost?
- What other resources do you recommend?
This site is a directory of people who are practitioners of tantra, sacred sexuality, and related professional practices involving sensuality, sexuality, spirituality and intimacy. We are not an agency of any kind. Each advertiser practices as they choose and lists themselves here so that you can find them.
Practices listed here focus on hands-on experiences, as opposed to counseling, though many practitioners also offer consultation, some by phone.
What do you offer?
Our offerings fall into 3 basic categories. Some practitioners offer one or two, many offer all three.
Tantra can be woven into a deeply sensual experience, or can be taught in a clothed, instructional format, depending on your needs and interests. Each professional has their own style, and level of intimacy offered. Many of our practitioners offer experiences in Tantra. Be sure to read their websites for more information.
2) Sensual Massage and Body Work
In body work, touch is one way and attention is on you, with nothing to give back. Our advertisers offer many kinds of body work, including sensual massage, therapeutic massage, energy work and more. In most states, massage is a licensed occupation, so you may be offered sensual touch or a body rub instead, if the giver is not a licensed massage therapist.
Sensual Massage focuses on pleasure as opposed to working on a particular muscle problem or therapy. The experience of sinking into deep pleasure can be healing, restorative and transforming. Not all of our practitioners offer sensual massage, but many of them do.
3) Sexual Coaching and Healing
This is not a technique, but a focus on your desire to learn. Activities may range from talking, to bodywork, to skills coaching, to sensual play. Our practitioners combine talking with hands-on experience, in whatever way the two of you agree will best meet your needs. This combination is an invaluable service found nowhere else.
Like other forms of coaching, sexual or intimacy coaching focuses on skills - self awareness, communication, boundaries and limits, skills for touch and intimacy. Here you can also get help with sexual function or intimacy challenges.
What is Tantra?
Tantra is both an approach to life and a spiritual practice emphasizing physical experience. American, or Western Tantra, also called Neo-Tantra, teaches a set of practices to deepen sexual experience and use sexual energy as a ‘rocket fuel’ for spiritual growth and intimacy.
Learning tantra may include breathwork, movement, ritual, sound, touch and occasionally sexual touch and connection. Tantra is taught in one-on-one sessions and in workshops, both for singles and couples.
Many tantra teachers use an instructional approach, sometimes clothed. For others, tantra sensibilities are woven into an erotic experience, whether through massage or a mutual activity. Our advertisers do their best to clarify their approach in their ad.
For more about tantra, please visit the articles page.
What is Sacred Sexuality?
The intention of sacred sexual experience is to deepen the heart and meaning of sex and to awaken the natural connection of sexuality and spirituality. Intention is the key here, more so than a particular activity. The activity is chosen to spark and support the intention and attitude, and of course depends on the agreement of the partners.
A sacred approach to sex counters the common idea that sex is bad or unworthy of serious attention. Many people find this attitude helps them step out of their old habits and find an entirely new mindset about their own sexuality. There is much overlap here with sexual healing. See our articles on Sacred Sexuality.
Who are the practitioners?
We are erotic educators, tantra teachers, sexual healers, love coaches, sacred sexuality guides, sensual artists, sexological body workers and sacred intimates.
Some of us started as health professionals, counselors or massage therapists and expanded the sexual element of our work. Some came from other disciplines and chose this work after years of personal exploration and self-actualization. Our practices vary but what we have in common is our confidence in the power of experience.
What do they do?
We guide you in erotic explorations that develop your skills, enrich your life and expand your consciousness. Sometimes that may be a rejuvenating oasis of pleasure; other times lessons and coaching may be in order.
We each bring unique training and experience, and tailor our skills to your needs. Some activities you are likely to find are:
* sensual massage
* tantric instruction or exploration
* hands-on coaching for erotic awareness and skills
* counseling and verbal coaching
* erotic trance bodywork
* breath work
* fantasy and role play
* hands-on coaching for specific sexual function needs like erectile dysfunction or orgasmic challenges
* classes, workshops and group experiences
Are they trained?
Many of our advertisers have advanced degrees in healing modalities, therapies and bodywork. Most have completed various trainings and certifications for tantric practices and sexual education. Others have learned their skills through years of personal exploration. These are usually listed on the ads.
Most of our advertisers are glad to work with couples. If you don’t see it on the ad, just ask.
Do I need a partner to learn Tantra?
The first steps of tantra are about you and your body and energy, and are best learned solo. Other parts can include a partner, and still others are for partners together. If you are single, or learning alone, our teachers and practitioners can guide you in what is most appropriate for you. In some cases, they may also serve as a practice partner.
What can I learn in a session that I can’t get from a book or DVD?
Sometimes a good book or video is all you need to get started. Other times, a class or workshop is great. Other times, a personal experience with someone who knows what they’re doing can make all the difference in the world. By guiding and giving support and feedback, they are able to take you into experiences that may be hard to find without it.
What should I expect from a private session?
Many of our advertisers combine a variety of approaches. Every practitioner chooses her or his own form of work, and every practitioner chooses what they will do or not do in any given session.
There is absolutely no way to guarantee any specific activity, especially a sexual one, within a session. That would be prostitution. Asking for it is illegal in most states, and so is agreeing to it. Please be respectful.
Do you offer coaching by phone?
Some of our practitioners offer phone coaching sessions - right here. If you don't see it you may also ask for it. Note that Sexual Coaching by Phone is not "phone sex".
Can I get help with sexual problems?
Many sexual ‘problems’ can be helped with attentive care and guidance, and experiences in which you have the opportunity to learn more about yourself and intimacy. Erectile difficulties, ejaculation and orgasm challenges are often helped with coaching and sensual skills.
However, our practitioners are not therapists, so if you need a sex therapist, please seek elsewhere. We recommend our friends at www.sexcoaching.com.
Should I work with a man, a woman, or a couple?
Working with a female practitioner . . .
Many people are more comfortable with a woman. Women clients often appreciate knowing the practitioner shares her experience as a woman, and ‘speaks her language’. Many couples prefer learning with a woman if either one is uncomfortable with another man. Others prefer women for the joy of it.
Working with a male practitioner
Do not underestimate the power of nurturing touch from a caring man! Contrary to what society teaches, men are just as naturally sensual, loving and supportive as women.
Women can find it very healing to have a safe, caring and intentional experience with a male, in a way they might not have had before.
Men might choose to work with another man as well. Many men have never had the chance to be mentored or coached by another man. Heterosexual men may more easily learn about themselves without the distraction of a woman practitioner. Others may seek a safe and gentle way to explore eroticism with another man.
Others simply prefer a man, which is a good enough reason.
Working with a couple . . .
For many people, this increases the feeling of safety and legitimacy. Practitioner couples often draw from their own experience as a couple, bringing that extra insight. Client couples can avoid concerns about feeling awkward as a ‘triangle’.
And don't forget the possibility of a 4-handed massage!
What is the cost?
Our advertisers are sexual energy professionals who provide a unique service, and generally charge more than a traditional massage therapist. Costs are posted on the ads or at their websites, which link from the ads.
What other resources do you recommend?
For coaches, therapists and counselors: SexCoaching.com
For reviews of sexuality sites across the web: JanesGuide.com (They like us)
For down to earth sex information and education: Scarleteen.com
For the beauty of orgasm, seen only on the face - amazing!: BeautifulAgony.com
Please visit the Definitions page for descriptions of our work and more answers.
Glossary and FAQ kindly provided by Beth Morgan. Please let us know of other questions you may have.