When we hear the word erotic we often think, “Oh my God, hot and endless passion and hard-action genital aerobics.  Erotic, like the word sex, has been narrowly defined in culture to mean plumbing and pumping of body parts. I use the term in a much larger context. I define erotic as “being truthful, vulnerable…

At one time in my life, I had the most wonderful kisser for a boyfriend, so I was surprised when after time I got bored with our kissing. Then I discovered why. He was always kissing me (active) and I was always receiving his gestures. As soon as I realized I needed to be more…

Touch in our modern culture is a very touchy subject.   There are right ways and there are wrong ways.  There are good ways and there are bad ways.  There are socially acceptable ways and there are socially condemned ways. In our society, the socially acceptable way to touch and receive touch is through massage.  However,…

Performance anxiety runs rampant in our sexual beings.  It is an issue which evolves from our concept that we need another to complete the self; or that another needs us to be complete.  Men have been taught that they must be the performers – the magical ingredient that makes his partner have a sexual experience…

As a sex and intimacy coach, my most important job is to give people permission to have more fun. I’m a pleasure activist. My mantras are “Choose fun. Do it for you. Have it your way. Say yes to desires—and express them!” I encourage women to flirt, turn themselves on, and brag. I help men…