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Intimacy Coaching | Los Angeles, California | Robert
Slow down, take a breath, feel your feet on the floor, feel your body, breathe life into it. Now from that place focus on what you want, what you truly want, the deepest ache of your heart, of your body, the craving of your genitals. Now ask for it. From that place, ask for it. Breathe it in as you receive it. Feel it’s aliveness in your body. Breathe. Breathe it out again as grief and praise and beauty; creation. Breathe it out again to make room for more. The next ask. Ask as though you will receive it, as though you humbly deserve it.
This is the place I invite my clients to. There are many ways of getting there. Pleasure, desire, touch and intimacy is one of the surest. This is the work I do. Often grief and anger spill out, and our hurts and wounds end up on the floor to be picked up and tended with care. This is real work for people who want to be more alive in the world, more empowered, more present, more fulfilled, breathing life into themselves, their neighbours, their community, their society. This is the gift to the world that woman’s sexuality is. You getting what you want, ripples out everywhere for all of us.
My Goal is to get you where you want to go, and give you the experiences you want to explore. We are all capable of receiving the things we desire. Following the path of pleasure is the surest way to get there.
If you’re still reading you’re ready for a deep dive into pleasure, sensuality, sexuality, body, desire, emotions; intimacy, and the dissolving of boundaries between two people.
To be truly intimate, we first need to have those boundaries to dissolve.
Once this box is opened, there’s no going back. Ever. Sexuality work is the most empowering work there is, it goes straight to the root of everything.
The most common thing women say they want in a male partner is presence. Being with them in the present moment, with what is. This is what I practice. Presence, curiosity, clarity. it’s what my life has led me to & taught me.
One of my teachers equated the wilderness to the feminine, she called it the ‘Wild Her-Ness’. As an ecologist and former climate scientist, the wilderness has been my teacher. I’ve sat in it my whole life, in the cold, damp, rain, snow, sun, wind – in fear and in awe, weathering its storms, paying attention to it, figuring it out, questioning it, understanding it, turning it around every way in my mind and with my hands. Touching it. Being intimate with it – with the feminine.
As well as spending decades in the wilds and mountains, I’ve spent years studying sexuality, personal growth, plant medicine and particularly a goal-less practice called Orgasmic Meditation, where focus is simply on the point of connection, the body, and the present moment.
I don’t consider myself spiritual, but people around me reflect that I am. I’m an ecologist. My spirituality is from the Wilderness, the North, the snow, the rock, tundra, the forest, the stars. I’m close to the soil & I can pay attention.
I’m a former climate scientist, I’ve been to the North Pole and lived in the Arctic wilderness for a decade, doing fieldwork year-round in the mountains, including in the arctic winter. My mission is still to help the world & I understand data is not our problem; it’s a problem with what we value.
I am certain the only way out of this is empowering, strengthening and lending support to women. Working with sexuality and desire is the surest, most direct way to do this, and I like to get to the point.
Let’s get you the things that you want.
The word Human comes from ‘Humus’ – the part of the soil which gives life, and nourishes us with food and forest. The second part is ‘man’ – the thing that follows woman. We knew it once, it was so important we named ourselves after this idea. The way out is to remember it again, and rebalance things. This is why I do this work.
In my intimacy coaching I work with three types of women:
Those who want to practice and experience intimacy -by exploring touch, desire, getting in touch with their body, figuring out how to feel more pleasure.
Those who want to explore the depths of intimacy – either exploring a new avenue or simply going deep into their own sex with a person that can meet them, or exploring deeply intimacy with another.
Those with trauma, who are working through their blocks to intimacy.
I work both in person and remotely as a desire coach and practice partner. I offer free 40 minute no obligation consultations. You are welcome to bring a friend to appointments if it promotes your feeling of safety.
I offer individual intimacy coaching sessions in LA, and surrounding areas, and I offer deep dives into intimacy over 5 or 7 days for clients further afield (I travel to you). I’m English, and have lived a decade in Sweden too – so I also travel to Europe for clients.
What my Clients Say:
Since meeting Robert things in my life have been changing. People started to say I’m glowing and I have been making big changes in life – recently my boss offered to pay my tuition. I feel much more alive thanks to Robert’s deep, caring, masculine attention.
B, 22, Seattle.
I’m a single Mom, successful but without much time to date. People I meet always seem to want something from me. I visit Robert regularly to get my fix of intimacy and pleasure. He does not disappoint.
Amy, 54, Seattle.
I came to this work for help with my anxiety and depression since being raped. In our first session I was being massaged and I felt a huge release in my belly. I cried on the massage table and he held his hands on me, telling me it was OK. I shook and trembled for an hour, having a huge emotional release. I hadn’t had any male touch since my rape, or my period, and two days later it came for the first time in years. I’m so grateful. I’m still working through my trauma, and Robert makes me feel safe to do so, and to receive intimate touch. I tried everything before my therapist suggested this work, and he’s been the person that has finally been helping me through it. He’s professional, skilled, safe and intimate.
Natalia, 26, Seattle.
Robert was a breath of fresh air in my life. He has so much attention on me in a session that I can completely surrender into his warmth. We practice bringing out my primal side, and he growls and scratches me as I act like a wild woman of the forest. I feel freer around my sexuality and in love with life again.
Clem, 42, LA.
I love meeting Robert. It feels like men have always had a place to go to be treated well, and it’s time we ladies did too. It’s nice to have somewhere to release, relax and feel like the world is a long way away. Highly recommended.
Anjuli, 47, San Francisco.
Before working with Robert I had never had a place to explore my sexuality. It always felt like a game of tug and war. How to get the things I need from someone without them taking too much from me. I used to give to men in order to get something back, but in the end I was always giving and never receiving. Robert has clean and honed attention and makes sure I leave feeling better than when I came in. I had a deep dive with him and I feel like my life will never be the same again. I used to think men were idiots that didn’t care and were not able to give what I needed. Robert helped me get it, and practice asking for it and now I can do that in my life. This is liberating work that you can not do with a romantic partner – because all their own things get in the way.
Rachel 37, NYC.
He approached me with so much sensitivity and care that the first time we met I cried. He gently and repeatedly pushes my edges, and allows me to choose to go deeper. He feels like a long-lost lover I can come home to again, learn from and feel free with. We just keep on exploring my depths. I’ve never experienced anything like it. He’s every bit the Scorpio. Don’t be fooled by his quietness, he’ll be roaring in the bedroom if you let him. Recommended.
Allison, 39, Portland.
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