My Intimacy Coach service welcomes women and poly relationships
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Sexuality goes straight to the root of everything – we’re hard-wired to pay attention to it, and exploring it is deeply empowering. It is related to the things we deserve from life, how we feel about our bodies, how present we can be with the world, what we desire from it, how we feel about others, how safe we are, how we perceive the world around us, what we deserve; everything.
If you want more from life, the place to get unblocked is around our sexuality. Everything comes up around it, and it’s a powerful place to work with those things. In practicing and experiencing pleasure and presence we can find and work through all our blocks.
I offer deep dives into intimacy or healing work. As a sacred intimate, and sex, relationship and intimacy coach, I guide you in intimacy, or hold space for you to heal. Following the path of desire and pleasure is incredibly powerful, and working through whatever comes up allows us to get free and become a bigger, better, truer, more empowered version of ourselves.
All of my work focuses on empowering my clients, whether it is intimacy work here, or building better men elsewhere in my men’s programs.
I welcome grief and anger into my space – these often come up and are something we can work through, process and burn off. In my experience grief is often in the way of experiencing more pleasure and more intimacy with the world.
I create deep, intimate exploratory containers with my clients where they get to have the experience they desire – whether that is for touch, intimacy, connection, pleasure. We explore intimacy together & work through any places they feel blocked, and any emotions that come up, always with a focus on being present with and feeling the sensitivity and sensations of our bodies. Breath is a big part of this.
I have a great deal of experience in holding space for people’s trauma, and allowing them to work through it. Much of this comes from learning to work through my own.
In my sacred intimacy practice I offer a place for you to explore and deepen intimacy, bringing more consciousness and embodiment to sexuality. My work ranges from practicing boundaries, to cuddling, to exploring touch, exploring pleasure, to sensual massage and yoni massage.
I believe in bringing consciousness to sexuality, and in treating it as sacred. In my sessions I am devoted to you, and to creating a clear space for your experience. In sex we so seldom have a space to explore, or be conscious. It’s something that happens almost on autopilot, and over time often feels the same. Sometimes our partners feel like they’re trying to get something from us, and we have a hard time relaxing into or surrendering to the experience.
I believe in bringing consciousness and attention to sexuality, and in slowing down and practicing embodiment.
My work has three main focusses: boundaries, embodiment and pleasure.
Intimacy is the thing that truly nourishes us. We can’t be intimate without being vulnerable. One of my teachers describes sex as the ‘dissolving of boundaries between two (or more) people’. When we dissolve boundaries we’re vulnerable, and this requires trust. To be intimate we have to trust. In figuring out intimacy we have to figure out what prevents us from being vulnerable, lowering our guard and trusting. Intimacy and sexuality go to the core of who we are, and what we think and believe about ourselves and others. So much can happen in figuring it out.
What I do:
My goal is to create a place where you can explore your sexuality, and sensuality. In a session all my attention is on you. I am to have clients leave feeling warm, cared for, understood, and most importantly nourished.
Sessions are a blend of conscious relating, talk-therapy, coaching, emotional work, breath work, sensuality and touch. I aim to be present with you in your experience, deeply listening to you and your body and allowing you to experience or explore the touch, care or intimacy you desire. Sessions often have a lot of focus on excavating what those desires are.
What I offer:
Exploration of sexuality, sensuality and touch.
A place to practice receiving pleasure.
Deep listening & care.
This can take many forms: talking, exploration of boundaries, cuddling, head massage, foot bathing, exploration of platonic touch, listening, crying, discovering your sexual imprint, guided meditation, ritual, exploration of sensual touch, yoni massage, yoni mapping, sacred spot massage, clitoral massage, full-body massage, light BDSM (such as flogging, or tying), and much more. There is a whole spectrum to explore.
A session usually has three parts:-
Listening to discover and excavate what you want.
Exploring this desire.
The amount of time spent in each part often varies, sometimes we can focus on excavating the desire, sometimes on practicing it, and sometimes on expressing and dealing with the emotions that come up in the process. All these parts are valuable.
In the whole process I pay attention to you, and what you feel. Every feeling is true, and I provide a safe space for it to be felt and expressed. It’s often in dealing with these feelings that big shifts can be made.
I work in person, and also coach over the phone.
In person, I currently only do deep dives into intimacy. These cost $1500 per day, and $2000 for an overnight stay. I love to work with clients intensely for 5 – 7 days, creating an experience for them that can change their life. I travel to you and work all over the world. I’m currently based in California.
Who I work with:
Anyone who has a desire for more, or for exploration.
I work with women who want more from their sex lives, or from life in general. You don’t need to have specific issues with sexuality, you can simply want more from it. Practicing receiving pleasure is an end in itself.
I have worked with all sorts of women including women with: an-orgasmia, disability, vaginismus, PTSD, trauma (sexual and non-sexual).
Often this work is described as healing, and clients often describe my sessions as healing. In my experience we are all healers – everyone has an innate ability to heal. I believe that in paying attention to our bodies we can heal them. The client does the healing, I simply guide the process, and make sure it’s safe to happen. Feeling safe, relaxed and cared for is the key, and touch is a way our bodies understand those things.
I know this from my own healing journey too.
Please reach out for more information, visit my website or ask a question. Before arranging an appointment, I always speak with a new client on a call to break the ice, find out what they are looking for, and answer any questions they have. I look forward to hearing from you.
“My name is Beatriz and I’m twenty-three years old, I came across some sex frustrations since I started my sex life. It was always very difficult for me to have an orgasm when I was with a partner … I never knew what my problems or blockages were, but I found a way to solve them and this came after a lot of research and finding a trustworthy professional.
I guarantee you, at first I was a little scared and I wasn’t sure what a massage would be like. But I found Robert’s contact on the internet and decided to give it a try, because the desire to resolve myself was always stronger than my fear.
He was always very professional and attentive, explained everything to me and gave me time to thing about all that he said, and finally we did an appointment. On the day of the appointment he taught me about boundaries, asked my expectations and showed me that the control of everything would be on my hand (by a way that I could communicating with him during the massage and a few games to teach me how to be comfortable saying yes or no) and that there would be no judgments, explained to me that this massage was only related to me and only to my body.
Every time he respected my limits and boundaries, after the first session I could understand his work and I can guarantee that it is extremely therapeutic.
I had a lot of responses from my body after the first session, one example was: I use birth control and has been one year that I did not get any period after the first appointment I had my period three times that month (I really felt that my body was throwing away already a few blockages that I had), I also had several feelings that came after the session (but he had me explained that all this was normal).
I can tell that a healing process was starting in my body. After the second session I was able to learn some tactics to control some emotions during the massage and I could see my body reacting to all this process. I am so grateful to have the opportunity to have known this incredible work of Robert and to be able to trust a professional the way I trust him. I feel that I am breaking barriers and knowing myself better. I am healing and after every session I’m getting closer to my goals.”
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