Sex and Relationship Coaching

Seattle, Portland, Vancouver

I welcome women, men and couples
to my studio in Seattle
and visit Portland and Vancouver.
I also offer coaching by phone or video.

I work with clients to find their authentic self – to be real – in relationship, first with themselves and then with others in order to live the most sexually and emotionally fulfilling life possible!

My approach to coaching is one of complete deshamification. Whoever you are, whatever your struggling with, all of your feelings and non-feelings, EVERYTHING is welcome in a session. I will listen to you, I will believe you and I will work with you to find your true authentic self and move toward the life that you desire.

Tracey, Intimacy and Sex Coaching in Seattle

I believe that we all have vulnerabilities, places of hurt inside of us, and that much of our suffering in everyday life and in sex and relationships is related to those places of hurt – our younger selves, the ones who were not met completely and did not feel held and cared for the way they may have wanted. We will work with those vulnerabilities as well as your adult self to be competent, empowered, loved, full of desire and capable of experiencing pleasure in each moment.

I will support you to take steps on your journey, some small, some big, towards your own happiness, towards fulfillment in life and relationships and in your sexual self.

I am a formally trained Sex and Relationship Coach. What makes Sex and Relationship coaching different from Sex Therapy or traditional talk therapy is that it is an experiential, embodied approach to learning about and practicing relationship skills. These skills can be verbal, physical, energetic or emotional. They are all important and what we work on will be dependent on the client’s current struggles, goals, capacities and desires.

Working with a Somatica coach is like being in a ‘relationship lab’ where you are actually practicing being in relationship with your coach. You will have opportunities to practice communication, touch, setting and honoring boundaries, dealing with disappointment and repair or anything else that comes up in our time together.

Sex Coaching Seattle

The possibilities for personal growth in the areas of sex and relationship are endless and vast when working with a coach. While this is not a comprehensive list, here are some of the areas I feel confident to help you explore:

Dive into the depths of what is possible.

Exploring your sexual identity in depth – Learning about what you crave to ‘feel’ during sex and how you go about getting that feeling.
Connecting with your erotic energy – your life force – as well as your confident adult self in order to make empowered decisions that are good for you today, tomorrow, next week and 10 years from now.
Understanding your attachment style and that of others (anxious, avoidant, secure or all of the above at times) and how that impacts one’s action and/or inaction in relationship.
Feeling into and mapping your own boundaries and knowing how to lovingly share those boundaries with others.
Discovering what style of sex and relating you like best (romantic, passionate, dominant/submissive, energetic, etc.) and if you have a partner or partners, whether or not they match your style and how to work together to have a better connection and hotter sex!!
Giving you a mini-introduction into the kink world and bdsm practices (if this is one of your interests) and a safe place to start to explore those desires.
Getting more confidence both in how you communicate verbally and how you interact physically (sexual or non) with others.
Feeling into your own desire and what it is that you actually want and then asking for it in a sexy and/or enticing way that is attractive to others.
Practicing consent conversations and how to continue to check in about consent to make sure everyone is an enthusiastic YES! during an experience
Practicing different types of language and/or touch/moves around romantic, passionate, dominant/submissive, energetic, or other styles of turn ons so as to grow your repertoire and ability to meet your own and others desires.
Understanding your triggers and those of others and how to handle them when they appear.
Learn about steps for repair when something goes wrong and dealing with disappointment when you don’t get what you want.

Sex Coaching Seattle

We work on Challenges:

Overcoming issues around low desire, painful intercourse and/or absence of orgasm
Overcoming issues around premature ejaculation and/or erectile dysfunction.
Finding more connection with your current partner if you are in a relationship that has gone stale and feels disconnected (anywhere from emotional disconnection, to sexless partnership to disconnected sex or communication)
For transgender folks, working with body dysphoria and how to understand, work with and enjoy pleasure with your changing body and emotions.

Exploring relationship preferences…

Helping you enjoy a traditional monogamous relationship and finding a beautiful balance between security (attachment) and independence (freedom) so that both partners can get their needs met in creative ways with each others support and commitment.
Helping you explore and navigate alternative relationship styles such as: open relationships, various flavors of polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, relationship anarchy, and etc…

I work with individuals or partners (one or more) ages 18 and up. It is NEVER too late to learn sex and relationship skills! I work with clients in or desiring any type of relationship from traditional to alternative and honor all genders and sexual orientations as well as sexual preferences. LGBTQIA+ friendly and welcoming.

I welcome women, men and couples
to my studio in Seattle
and visit Portland and Vancouver.
I also offer coaching by phone or video.

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