Pornography: Pros, Cons, and How to Watch It As a sex and Intimacy coach I decided since porn is a big part of today’s sex scene, I’d better know more about it, so I spent a good couple months watching…lots. Very interesting experiment, I didn’t even need a vibrator. Instead of trying to answer whether…
How Love and Desire Differ Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?” And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?” You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of. Love feels safe and secure, like a melting…
A few myths: 1) Old folks don’t have sex: One of the most loving things older folks can tell young people is the truth about their sexuality and that sex often gets better with age. Young people feel pressured and frantic to do it now and get it right because soon it will go away. …
When we hear the word erotic we often think, “Oh my God, hot and endless passion and hard-action genital aerobics. Erotic, like the word sex, has been narrowly defined in culture to mean plumbing and pumping of body parts. I use the term in a much larger context. I define erotic as “being truthful, vulnerable…
At one time in my life, I had the most wonderful kisser for a boyfriend, so I was surprised when after time I got bored with our kissing. Then I discovered why. He was always kissing me (active) and I was always receiving his gestures. As soon as I realized I needed to be more…
As a sex and intimacy coach, my most important job is to give people permission to have more fun. I’m a pleasure activist. My mantras are “Choose fun. Do it for you. Have it your way. Say yes to desires—and express them!” I encourage women to flirt, turn themselves on, and brag. I help men…