Dating & Intimacy Coach

Los Angeles, CA

Who this is for

You’re the most capable person in almost every room you walk into. You handle the hard calls, carry the pressure, deliver when it matters, and people rely on you. Then a woman gets close, really close, and something in you freezes. You’ve had relationships. Some of them looked good from the outside. And still you’ve felt more alone in them than you do on your own. You’ve read the books. You’ve done the therapy. You understand yourself well by now. And you still can’t feel the thing you’re supposed to be feeling.

Dating & Intimacy Coach | Los Angeles, CA | Brittnee Bond

What changes

A man stops performing his confidence and starts feeling it from the inside. He can sit across from a woman he’s drawn to and stay open, instead of going into strategy or going numb. The compulsive reaching, the next business deal, quiets down, because the thing it was trying to fill is finally getting filled by something real. He wakes up with a sense of purpose that isn’t tied to his next financial goal. One man told me he felt at home in his own body for the first time in his life.

Why this works

When a man works with me, I believe he uncovers early programming around what connection means. That usually gets put into place in early childhood before he could even speak. His parents or caregivers taught him how to love based on the love they showed him. The work I’m doing is helping uncover any negative beliefs and reprogram what connection means for him, and teaching him the tools for how to do it in a healthy way.

A lot of men are taught to disconnect from their body when they’re very young. When they have an emotional reaction, they’re told to man up or to stop crying, and this programs them to disconnect from their body and compartmentalize their emotions. So by working with me, they get to unpack their emotions and learn how to emotionally regulate themselves, and I teach them the tools to do it.

The pattern I see over and over is men not being able to feel safe to share their emotions, and holding a belief that sharing their emotions will equal disconnection. After so many years of disconnecting, when someone asks them how they’re feeling, they don’t even know, because they’ve shoved it down so far. The men who work with me gain access, in real time, to what’s happening in their emotional reality. He can access his real desires and boundaries and speak up for them in a way that can be received positively by the person he wants to connect with.

My aim is to connect the thinking part of him with his body. What I mean by that is a lot of men are living from the top down. Their head is cut off from the rest of their body. They’re programmed to be productive and to push through, all of these societal traits deemed masculine and healthy. And all of this is great, as long as they’re also connecting to what I call the intelligence of the body. The body is always speaking to us, giving us cues about what it needs, what it wants, what it desires. Most men haven’t been able to tap into that intelligence, and this is what I teach. I give them specific tools for how to connect to their body intelligence, integrate that information, and make a cohesive decision based on both their intellectual intelligence and their body intelligence.

How we work together

We work either online or in my private session space at my home in Topanga: a quiet, grounded room set apart from everything else in your day. We begin by sitting down together and you download everything you’re carrying and working through. Once I have the whole picture we make a plan together.

A session runs for 1.5 hours, with total in-and-out time closer to 2 hours. Most men leave feeling more settled and more in their own power than when they walked in.

What’s included and what isn’t

Every session is tailored to the individual, so what’s included shifts with what the work actually calls for. Some of it is talking and some of it is somatic. Touch may be part of it, and when it is, it’s one direction only, from me to you. Depending on what the session needs and what feels comfortable for both of us, that touch can be platonic, sensual, or erotic.

Here’s where my work stops: I stay clothed, and no touch comes in my direction. If what you need goes beyond this, into sex surrogacy or something outside my scope, I’ll happily point you toward practitioners I trust.

Dating & Intimacy Coach | Los Angeles, CA | Brittnee Bond

About me

I’m Brittnee. My background is a strange but useful combination. I’ve worked in law, startups, and high-pressure corporate rooms, and I’ve spent years deep in somatic therapy, psychology, and human sexuality. I understand the world you operate in and I understand what it quietly costs you. I’ve spent the last decade working with thousands of people, privately and in groups, and working with men is the part I love most.

What brought me here: my first romantic relationship was with my husband. I got married at 18 as a virgin and he was a really good man. Even though our marriage didn’t work out, we were married for six years and we were best friends. So my first real imprint in relationships was being with a man who was very connected to his emotions and very regulated. He let me in to see the inner world of men that I think a lot of women don’t get to see. Because of that, I’ve always had this accepting and available energy of wanting to know who a man really is, without needing him to be the perfect knight in shining armor. He can just be accepted for being a growing human.

Because of this energy I carry, and my interest in psychology, I was always the person my male friends came to for relationship advice. It’s something I love talking about. I can talk about it all day long. This led me to studying psychology more deeply and learning practical somatic tools to help in a real way. I seem to have a unique power for understanding men, and for helping them see how a woman actually feels and connects to how they’re showing up. I can hold that balance in the middle, unbiased. I’m here for the harmony between men and women, and I’m on men’s side. I do this in reverence and service to the masculine, because a man who understands how to show up in healthy connection is going to have a positive affect on every woman he connects to after that. I love working with powerful men specifically, because they have a huge influence in the world, which means the positive impact spreads even farther.

One thing that surprised me: how quickly men catch on to this work. In society, men are deemed to not be very good with emotions. What surprised me is how many are eager to learn this and are very good at it. Men are actually naturally very good at processing emotions once they learn the tools to do so.

Dating & Intimacy Coach | Los Angeles, CA | Brittnee Bond

Next steps

I hand-select everyone I work with and take on only a small number of clients at a time, so each person gets my full attention. If everything you’ve read here resonates, I invite you to come to my website and tell me a little about what brought you here so I can see if we are a good fit to work together.

What clients say

“Still integrating one of the more exquisitely opening experiences in my relationship to pleasure. It left me feeling sexy, empowered, safe, and desiring more, with increased trust in myself and others.” ~ Michael

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I’m Brittnee Bond, a Dating & Intimacy Coach.
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