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Banish Shame and Experience More Pleasure

Before I became a sex and intimacy coach, I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about shame.  I understood ...

Silent Suffering and Superhero Syndrome

Silent Suffering - and - Superhero Syndrome When I worked as a professional companion it was not uncommon to hear ...
tantra ritual couples

Couples’ Puja

A Tantra Ritual for Couples In our day to day living we often get caught up in the activity and ...

The Kissing Game

At one time in my life, I had the most wonderful kisser for a boyfriend, so I was surprised when ...
sex and aging

Orgasms, Cougars, and Wizards: 8 Myths of Sex and Aging

A few myths: 1)  Old folks don’t have sex: One of the most loving things older folks can tell young ...
female sexuality

Female Sexuality and Healing (pt 2)

[This is the second in a series. For the first part - see: Female Sexual Dysfunction.] Female Sexuality and Healing ...

Intimacy and Passion in the Presence of Cancer

You may be on the road to healing, but who can help you pick up the pieces of your sexual ...

Performance Anxiety

Performance anxiety runs rampant in our sexual beings.  It is an issue which evolves from our concept that we need ...

Sacred Touch – The Magical Art of Laying on Hands

Touch in our modern culture is a very touchy subject.   There are right ways and there are wrong ways.  There ...

How Love & Desire Differ

How Love and Desire Differ Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?”  And then ask, “How does it ...

Asking for What You Want

Asking for What You Want Ask for what you want - everybody already knows that, right? How many times have ...

Millennials and Intimacy: What’s Not Adding Up?

For the past few years, publications like Mic, The Atlantic, and even TIME have pointed out that millennials have been ...
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What are the secrets to maintaining spark and desire for couples?

What is Tantra? What is Sacred Sexuality?

What can they teach us about ourselves for a closer connection and more satisfying sex? What are some tips for more intimacy and connection with my partner?

All this and much more in these articles on Tantra, sacred sexuality, intimacy and love.

For example:

Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?”  And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?”  You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of.   Love feels safe and secure, like a melting together.

Yet, love is not aways enough.  We humans have another basic need–our desire for adventure, novelty, surprise, taking risks and even flirting with danger, like a coming apart.  Now it gets interesting when, as in our culture, one person is supposed to fill all our needs–both our need for love/security, as well as our desire to dabble, autonomously, in the unpredictable, uncharted and risky. Desires are like dreams, we do not choose them they come to us. Our desires are our highest intelligence, turning our world, charting our destiny.

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