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Orgasms, Cougars, and Wizards: 8 Myths of Sex and Aging

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The Kissing Game

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Sex and the Boomer Legacy

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Touching without a Goal

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Positively Kinky: Explore Kink to Strengthen Intimacy and Connection

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What are the secrets to maintaining spark and desire for couples?

What is Tantra? What is Sacred Sexuality?

What can they teach us about ourselves for a closer connection and more satisfying sex? What are some tips for more intimacy and connection with my partner?

All this and much more in these articles on Tantra, sacred sexuality, intimacy and love.

For example:

Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?”  And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?”  You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of.   Love feels safe and secure, like a melting together.

Yet, love is not aways enough.  We humans have another basic need–our desire for adventure, novelty, surprise, taking risks and even flirting with danger, like a coming apart.  Now it gets interesting when, as in our culture, one person is supposed to fill all our needs–both our need for love/security, as well as our desire to dabble, autonomously, in the unpredictable, uncharted and risky. Desires are like dreams, we do not choose them they come to us. Our desires are our highest intelligence, turning our world, charting our destiny.

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