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Pornography: Pros, Cons, & How to Watch It

Pornography: Pros, Cons, and How to Watch It As a sex and Intimacy coach I decided since porn is a ...

Sacred Touch – The Magical Art of Laying on Hands

Touch in our modern culture is a very touchy subject.   There are right ways and there are wrong ways.  There ...

Millennials and Intimacy: What’s Not Adding Up?

For the past few years, publications like Mic, The Atlantic, and even TIME have pointed out that millennials have been ...

Permitting More Pleasure in Your Life

As a sex and intimacy coach, my most important job is to give people permission to have more fun. I’m ...
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Touching without a Goal

At our recent introductory tantra day, we spent the afternoon exploring the Wheel of Consent. It's derived from the Three ...
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Cultivating Happy Relationships . . . and finding dishsoap

Cultivating Happy Relationships . . .and finding dishsoap I was interviewed by a very sweet man and woman who are ...

Is It Better to Give or to Receive in Sex?

Is It Better to Give or to Receive in Sex? Do you have a difficult time of just relaxing and ...

Positively Kinky: Explore Kink to Strengthen Intimacy and Connection

Wikipedia defines Kink as “unconventional sexual practices.” We have all fantasized or secretly desired what may be considered unconventional. It’s ...
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Orgasms, Cougars, and Wizards: 8 Myths of Sex and Aging

A few myths: 1)  Old folks don’t have sex: One of the most loving things older folks can tell young ...

Banish Shame and Experience More Pleasure

Before I became a sex and intimacy coach, I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about shame.  I understood ...

What is Erotic?

When we hear the word erotic we often think, “Oh my God, hot and endless passion and hard-action genital aerobics.  ...

Performance Anxiety

Performance anxiety runs rampant in our sexual beings.  It is an issue which evolves from our concept that we need ...

What are the secrets to maintaining spark and desire for couples?

What is Tantra? What is Sacred Sexuality?

What can they teach us about ourselves for a closer connection and more satisfying sex? What are some tips for more intimacy and connection with my partner?

All this and much more in these articles on Tantra, sacred sexuality, intimacy and love.

For example:

Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?”  And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?”  You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of.   Love feels safe and secure, like a melting together.

Yet, love is not aways enough.  We humans have another basic need–our desire for adventure, novelty, surprise, taking risks and even flirting with danger, like a coming apart.  Now it gets interesting when, as in our culture, one person is supposed to fill all our needs–both our need for love/security, as well as our desire to dabble, autonomously, in the unpredictable, uncharted and risky. Desires are like dreams, we do not choose them they come to us. Our desires are our highest intelligence, turning our world, charting our destiny.

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