Banish Shame and Experience More Pleasure

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Positively Kinky: Explore Kink to Strengthen Intimacy and Connection

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sex and aging

Orgasms, Cougars, and Wizards: 8 Myths of Sex and Aging

A few myths: 1)  Old folks don’t have sex: One of the most loving things older folks can tell young ...

How I Spent My Summer Vacation: Embracing Celibacy

The history books may remember the Summer of 2016 as a fight for our Democratic values as we faced, an ...
female sexuality

Female Sexuality and Healing (pt 2)

[This is the second in a series. For the first part - see: Female Sexual Dysfunction.] Female Sexuality and Healing ...

Silent Suffering and Superhero Syndrome

Silent Suffering - and - Superhero Syndrome When I worked as a professional companion it was not uncommon to hear ...

The Secret of the G-spot is Connection

What is the G-Spot? A sensitive area of the anterior wall of the vagina believed by some to be highly ...
happy relationship

Cultivating Happy Relationships . . . and finding dishsoap

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What is Erotic?

When we hear the word erotic we often think, “Oh my God, hot and endless passion and hard-action genital aerobics.  ...

Millennials and Intimacy: What’s Not Adding Up?

For the past few years, publications like Mic, The Atlantic, and even TIME have pointed out that millennials have been ...

Rituals

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5 Tips For Giving Great Sensual Touch

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What is Tantra? What is Sacred Sexuality?

What can they teach us about ourselves for a closer connection and more satisfying sex? What are some tips for more intimacy and connection with my partner?

All this and much more in these articles on Tantra, sacred sexuality, intimacy and love.

For example:

Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?”  And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?”  You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of.   Love feels safe and secure, like a melting together.

Yet, love is not aways enough.  We humans have another basic need–our desire for adventure, novelty, surprise, taking risks and even flirting with danger, like a coming apart.  Now it gets interesting when, as in our culture, one person is supposed to fill all our needs–both our need for love/security, as well as our desire to dabble, autonomously, in the unpredictable, uncharted and risky. Desires are like dreams, we do not choose them they come to us. Our desires are our highest intelligence, turning our world, charting our destiny.

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