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Permitting More Pleasure in Your Life

As a sex and intimacy coach, my most important job is to give people permission to have more fun. I’m ...

Intimate Advice: a Q & A on Love and Sex

What does it really take to stay intimate with a partner and continue to enjoy your own sexuality? How does ...
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Couples’ Puja

A Tantra Ritual for Couples In our day to day living we often get caught up in the activity and ...

Performance Anxiety

Performance anxiety runs rampant in our sexual beings.  It is an issue which evolves from our concept that we need ...

Millennials and Intimacy: What’s Not Adding Up?

For the past few years, publications like Mic, The Atlantic, and even TIME have pointed out that millennials have been ...

Silent Suffering and Superhero Syndrome

Silent Suffering - and - Superhero Syndrome When I worked as a professional companion it was not uncommon to hear ...

How I Spent My Summer Vacation: Embracing Celibacy

The history books may remember the Summer of 2016 as a fight for our Democratic values as we faced, an ...
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Touching without a Goal

At our recent introductory tantra day, we spent the afternoon exploring the Wheel of Consent. It's derived from the Three ...
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Sex and the Boomer Legacy

Aging comes only to those who live long enough to experience it. If that's you, do you view aging as ...

Positively Kinky: Explore Kink to Strengthen Intimacy and Connection

Wikipedia defines Kink as “unconventional sexual practices.” We have all fantasized or secretly desired what may be considered unconventional. It’s ...

The Secret of the G-spot is Connection

What is the G-Spot? A sensitive area of the anterior wall of the vagina believed by some to be highly ...

Banish Shame and Experience More Pleasure

Before I became a sex and intimacy coach, I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about shame.  I understood ...
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What are the secrets to maintaining spark and desire for couples?

What is Tantra? What is Sacred Sexuality?

What can they teach us about ourselves for a closer connection and more satisfying sex? What are some tips for more intimacy and connection with my partner?

All this and much more in these articles on Tantra, sacred sexuality, intimacy and love.

For example:

Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?”  And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?”  You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of.   Love feels safe and secure, like a melting together.

Yet, love is not aways enough.  We humans have another basic need–our desire for adventure, novelty, surprise, taking risks and even flirting with danger, like a coming apart.  Now it gets interesting when, as in our culture, one person is supposed to fill all our needs–both our need for love/security, as well as our desire to dabble, autonomously, in the unpredictable, uncharted and risky. Desires are like dreams, we do not choose them they come to us. Our desires are our highest intelligence, turning our world, charting our destiny.

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