Dominatrix and BDSM Coach

New York

You are always on, working towards your next accomplishment, but in all that achieving you’ve abandoned yourself. You can’t find pleasure in the things you have built. You have tried all the conventional methods to get back to yourself, but return empty-handed – nothing gets you to the root of what’s missing. Turning towards your desire to surrender may feel scary or shameful. It overwhelms you to think – if I ever stop achieving, there would be nothing to love, nothing to value.

This is not a journey you want to start alone.

You need help exploring, slowly, with attention and care.
You know that once you feel safe, you can open up, finally stop performing satisfaction and exhale.

You found me.
Come closer.
Let’s begin.

My offering

I’m offering trauma-informed Dominatrix sessions. I work with clients who are submissives and want to explore kinks or who want a strong Dominant guide as they are working through breaking limiting beliefs they carry such as shame or powerlessness.

For example, I worked with a woman who had a lot of inner child shame around sexual fantasies she thought were unspeakable. I suggested doing a mother daughter role-play where I could create a bedtime/storytime scene for her to share her fantasies before she went to bed. After the session, she felt like she was finally able to integrate the inner child part she had exiled for so long.

Session work:

You will start by reviewing and signing my guidelines and standards, and specifying consent around your goals, kinks, and limits for touch and intensity. You may disrobe at your comfort level – full nudity is fine. All touch is one way, from me to you. I will be fully clothed. I do not provide sexual services.

A typical session: I settle your body first using posture and firm touch. Then I begin physical stimulation from the list of kinks we agreed on, asking for verbal feedback so I know you are present and not dissociating. When the energy has peaked, I bring you out slowly, then provide aftercare and room to discuss what came up. You are always at choice to use your safewords to ask for modifications or to stop a scene.

I will stop working with a client if they are rushing my process, stop following instructions or are becoming belligerent about getting a kink that is out of scope of what we agreed. Some kinks are outside my scope and I will tell you plainly if what you need is something I can’t provide.

Dominatrix & BDSM Coach | New York | Mistress Amada

My training:

Priestess of Dark Eros Level I with Om Rupani – where I trained to handle a submissive’s body safely across impact, bondage, and sensory play.

Priestess: Power and Surrender Level II with Lauren Harkness – where I learned to use Dominance for trauma processing: guiding people safely through shadow work, emotional release, and taboo exploration.

About me

BDSM did what a decade in therapy and medication didn’t achieve – it returned my desire to live. While experiencing intense rope bondage, my body said: enough, you don’t want to feel like nothing anymore. This breakthrough is why I decided to train as a professional Dominatrix. Since then I keep witnessing the power of BDSM to transform people’s pain into something they can actually understand and let go of.

Dominatrix & BDSM Coach | New York | Mistress Amada

Screening and Next Steps

At every moment you are under my gaze. Perhaps invited but not quite chosen yet.

Apply to surrender. Present yourself honestly and be specific about what you need and desire. I choose submissives who are a match to my Dominance.

If we might be a good fit, I’ll email you a link to schedule a 15-30 minute video call.

After the call, I require a paid meeting in a public space before any session work begins. This is where I study how you move in the world, and where you experience your first taste of my Dominant presence.

Fees

$25 application (non-refundable)
$500 video call (non-refundable)
$1,000/hour, two hours minimum – all in-person time, public or private.

Application and call fees are credited towards your first in-person meeting.

Identity verification required before booking. 50% deposit of the estimated total to book.

Testimonial

“I wasn’t completely sure of what I needed, but she knew exactly how to craft an exquisite scene and to take me on a journey. I felt completely held. I was able to release things I had carried painfully inside for so long. Something has permanently shifted in my system. My inner child feels more light and liberated.” ~ Sub J

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I am Mistress Amada, A Dominatrix & BDSM coach. I work with individuals of all genders and orientations, couples & poly relationships.

Mistress Amada ~ Dominatrix and BDSM Coach

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