Reclaiming Power, Pleasure & Real Partnership

Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland, WA

I work with emotionally intelligent adults navigating relational transition — divorce, breakup, retirement, empty nesting, opening or restructuring long-term partnerships. Most arrive when they realize they are not willing to die without feeling desired, excited, and eager for connection and real physical intimacy again.

I love working with people later in life who are recovering from relationship patterns, especially codependent ones, and learning to remove the shame, blame, and repression from an upbringing that missed protecting their individuality and autonomy. I love working with people who have been recently divorced and are trying to figure out who they are again — particularly men who are trying to figure out how to be men again and how to find their healthy masculine and express it so the women around them feel safe and cared for.

I love coaching individuals and couples through the process of opening up and developing the inner security that stops insecurity from sabotaging their personal relationships everywhere they go.

People come to me when they need to catch up on etiquette, awareness, and sensory play in a world they no longer recognize.

They come when they’re carrying a fear that they don’t know how to reclaim their own power again, or a whisper that their best might be behind them.

They come when they want to grow into a person whose integrity is consistently expanding, not shrinking.

Flow State Coach | Seattle, WA | Radiant Rebecca

How I Work

I refuse to let you hide from yourself, and I bring a compassionate, shiny mirror so you can see the patterns you’re actually engaging in and where those patterns end up if nothing changes. From there we work with shamanic insight tools, elemental balance with nature, and the work of clarifying what your soul is actually hungry for — because nothing stops your maturity faster than not feeding what pulls you forward.

This is direct, grounded work with real relational and erotic experience as it’s happening in your life. A session may slow down a real interaction line by line to see where you lost internal clarity. We may map relational patterns that repeat across partners. We may work through how to re-enter intimacy, dating, or partnership with clearer internal structure and more emotional steadiness. We might address the factors creating the instability in your personal relationships that are invisible to you, and obvious to someone with my perspective. I love to share the knowledge compassionately.

Behind this work: fifteen years of body study, a certification in Performance Neuroscience Coaching through the Flow Research Collective, and a long-term apprenticeship in a teaching lineage. I have been in early perimenopause for ten years, which has shaped how I work as much as any training. As someone who has tied her productivity and her income together over her career, the inability to predict my energy level and focus and sleep quality was a huge problem and kept me from traveling for work and being fully present in my life and that cost was so high it forced me to find ways to fix it.

I have. And I have found ways to get my partners’ enthusiastic engagement and support.

I am able to point out the landmines in relationships and help you avoid them while you figure out what genuinely makes you happy and find a regular state of flow and alignment in your life.

Sessions

What do I help clients with?

Women in perimenopause and menopause to help them understand their physiology and the Flow State, so that they can efficiently get a month’s worth of work done in a 24 hour time period – which completely changes their relationship to their own productivity AND helps them rethink a lot of what it means to live in a man’s world and how to be a feminine being, high performing and naturally connected to others.

Men living with or loving women going through menopause and perimenopausal changes who want to be able to support them well.

Post-purity culture singles and couples: Deconstructing the shame and repression they carry from growing up in a repressive culture, finding their way back to their authentic, sensual, fully expressed selves and loving it (usually a religious background they are letting go of). They come to me to open up, and they leave as free, happy, and in tune with their own unjudged pleasure again.

Recently divorced or big life/relationship changes (including opening up an existing relationship): Integrating the lessons, loss and growth from the end of an important relationship (usually a divorce, death or job end/retirement) and finding strength, co-empowerment within themselves and putting themselves back out there in a supported, encouraging manner. They find their own power and reclaim their identity and masculine men with healthy strong masculinity.

General dating/polyamory guidance: People in the dating world often believe ‘there is no good scene in my city”, but that is usually because they are communicating like a 3rd grader and no one wants to play with them. With me and my 25 years of polyamory wisdom, they learn and practice ways to express themselves in relationship, maintain solid boundaries, and communicate that create openings, intimacy and authenticity. They leave confident, communicative, and secure in themselves again.

Evolving past codependency and into co-empowerment and inter reliability — how to practically explore the world with autonomy, respect for those around you and live in harmony without giving up yourself.

Men & women wanting to explore their sexuality deeper: Owning their own sexuality, finding and exploring what that might be (usually older, often men looking to explore sexual energies with other men for the first time). They come because I enjoy men, women and groups and can help them connect, relax, explore and enjoy without judgement, pressure or pushing. When my pleasure leads, everything else becomes simple and natural. What changes? They discover things about themselves they didn’t know and have a deeper source of fuel for their lives. They walk through the world tall, confident and sure of themselves.

Flow State Coach | Seattle, WA | Radiant Rebecca

Each Session’s Structure…

A session starts with a short conversation to ground, connect and see where you are at today, what you need, and what is important for us to talk about before we make a plan for the day/session.

The overall flow of the session mostly depends on the length. For a 90 minute one on one coaching session, it will mostly be conversation, potentially some practical hands-on practice.

For an overnight sleep recovery session, a good chunk of time is spent figuring out what is limiting their sleep and creating a strategic plan (immediate and future) for good, solid rest. And often the ‘going to bed’ ritual and the ‘waking up ritual’ happens together so that they can use my good sleeper energy to pull them into deep restful sleep.

For a longer retreat or longer coaching journey, it often looks like a planning meeting to get clear on the goals and intent, and then a handful of ‘adventure’ meetings, whether they are field trips to explore someplace particular (paddle boarding together in the Sound, exploring Club Sapphire, etc).

For adventure coaching (aka coaching while on an adventure, simple as a walk or paddle through the cut or around the pocket beaches), it looks like filling out the booking request form and deciding together what adventure feels fun and supportive of the conversation.

Mutual nudity and reciprocal touch is welcomed with a verbal consent conversation.

Flow State Coach | Seattle, WA | Radiant Rebecca

How to Begin

If this resonates, the best first step is a short conversation to clarify what you are navigating and whether this work is right for you.

Two paths:

1) Book a Clarity Call ($250 for 25 minutes) to move quickly, target whatever you have going on right away, and along the way, discover if working together again is a great fit or not.

2) Fill out the booking request form at workwithradiantrebecca.com/stop-hiding to start a free conversation over email to discuss.

I work with a limited number of people so I can hold real depth with each one. You do not need to be certain before reaching out — just honest about what is no longer working for you.

“She helped me see my life from new perspectives. She provided exactly what I needed during one of the most difficult times in my life.” ~ recently divorced client

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I’m Radiant Rebecca, a Flow State Coach
I welcome:
women, men, all genders, couples, poly relationships

Radiant Rebecca ~ Flow State Coach

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