Alchemy of Eros | Holistic Sex & Relationship Mentor

New York City, NY ; Denver, CO ; Los Angeles, CA

Tenderness with teeth. Eros that sharpens. Power that stays.

I do not offer tantric massage, and no sexual contact or nudity is involved in any session. Please look elsewhere if that’s what you’re seeking.

I work with individuals and couples who are done negotiating with themselves.
My work is the wild edge between fear and desire, sex and spirit, shadow and light.
Where you learn to harness and channel Eros as one coherent force across every area of your life.

My work is embodied, relational, and precise.
It is not hands-on bodywork or performative tantra.

It is the cultivation of erotic integrity:
the capacity to hold desire, intensity, and responsibility without collapse, leakage, or self-betrayal.

Who This Is For

People find me when something inside them knows it’s time.

Men who lead, build or carry responsibility– leadership, influence, wealth— yet feel their erotic energy scattered, muted, or unmanaged, and know it must match the level at which they live.*
Men who have learned to be agreeable, accommodating, or self-sacrificing— and are ready to reclaim spine, sexual command, and embodied authority.
Men on disciplined spiritual paths who have yet to integrate Eros in a way that requires them to truly meet their edge.
Women who are over-functioning and people-pleasing, and are ready to learn to wield power as liberation, pleasure and embodied authority.
Couples who crave intimacy that expands, deepens and refines over time.

If your life is outwardly successful but inwardly fragmented, this work will bring all the pieces into coherence.

Holistic Sex & Relationship Mentor | NYC | Sureya Leonara

The Work

My medicine is tenderness with teeth.
A hearth that will not let you hide, but will call you home to yourself.
A velvet blade that severs that which cannot come with you, and carves a clean path forward.

My approach is rooted in Tantra, Taoism, somatics, parts-work, and conscious power dynamics.
I work directly with the nervous system, not just the narrative.
My work is precise, challenging, and deeply attuned. You’ll be met where you are, not pushed past your nervous system’s capacity.

I track the exact moment agency collapses— under arousal, intimacy, pressure, or expectation— and intervene there.
This is how power is reclaimed: through staying present at the choice-point you usually abandon.
Eros becomes something you direct and channel into every area of life, not something that runs you or feels isolated to the bedroom.

On Power & Desire

Power dynamics emerge naturally when someone stops leaving their center of gravity.

As integrity consolidates, people experience:

sexual energy that fuels creativity, leadership, and direction
cleaner decisiveness
deeper surrender without loss of authority
sharper boundaries and quieter minds
reality rearranging around them

Those who are meant for this work feel it immediately— often before they can explain why.

Holistic Sex & Relationship Mentor | NYC | Sureya Leonara

Working With Me

I work selectively through private mentorship and initiatory containers.
All work with me is application-based.
Working with me always begins in the multiple four figures.
I work virtually with clients all over the world, and selectively offer in-person private and group intensives internationally.

This is not casual work.
It is for people prepared to be met precisely— and to move.

If something in you is already leaning forward, trust that.

You don’t need to convince yourself.
You need to decide.

With fire and devotion,
Sureya

Love Letters from Clients:

“I’ve worked with many practitioners within this field and can absolutely say that Sureya is top of the line; truly exceptional. Our short three months have transformed my marriage, a lifelong porn addiction, and my capacity to feel alive and purposeful again. I cannot recommend her enough.”

“Since beginning working with you our relationship has shifted immensely! I have been incredibly impressed at the transformation I’ve seen so far, I feel so much more at ease, seen and loved in our relationship. The work [my husband] has been putting in with your guidance gives me so much hope for our marriage. I really do think our marriage can be everything we both need and want.”

“I can now have non-ejaculatory orgasms within a minute of self-pleasuring, and can have them over and over again for at least thirty minutes. It’s been a really awesome experience, they feel absolutely incredible. I’ve found I can do this multiple times a day if I want to because I don’t feel depleted at all. I don’t know why no one taught me this 50 years ago.”

“Thanks for all of your help. My wife has been so supportive and very happy, which is what matters to me the most. It’s been a big change from six months ago. We agree that this class has been life-changing for me and also for us.”

“The breakthrough I had in our second session was bigger than any I’ve been able to have in fifteen years of therapy. I feel so relieved to finally have clarity around this issue and a pathway forward,”

“My work with Sureya has helped open up something in me that I never knew existed. Her teachings have sparked a fuse of desire so BIG, so magical inside me, its has changed my life forever. My experience with Sureya has made me feel I’m on a quest to make love to life itself. To soak up all the beauties life has to offer and truly connect. There is something DIVINE inside of us ALL just waiting to shine, I will forever be grateful to Sureya for showing me this! Truly a majestic soul!”

“Sureya’s Vital Cockfidence course was so honest. I’ve never been a part of anything so open and true. I found things about myself that I had not understood before. I am happier, fuller, and more confident.”

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I am Sureya, I welcome individuals and couples of all genders and orientations.
I work virtually over Zoom as well as in-person locally.

Sureya Leonara ~ Holistic Sex & Relationship Mentor

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