Mastery of your sexual energy. Freedom from old patterns. Becoming the man you want to be.

London, UK; Online worldwide

I work with men who are ready to stop running on autopilot.

For over 15 years I’ve worked with thousands of men through their bodies, their minds and their habits and patterns. I’ve seen what keeps men stuck: The need for distraction, sexual hunger, pressure to perform, and no adequate guidance around this incredibly potent and powerful part of being human.

I’ve also seen what happens when a man learns to meet his sexual energy with awareness rather than urgency. He becomes more grounded, more confident and more present. In his relationships, if his life, in himself – he moves from auto-pilot to awareness, performance to presence, extraction to connection.

I WORK WITH MEN WHO

Feel disconnected from their bodies and run on autopilot in their sexual habits
Want more confidence, presence and choice in intimacy
Are curious about semen retention as a path to awareness and mastery, but not the white-knuckle, through approach!
Are ready to look honestly at what sits underneath their patterns
Are willing to practise between sessions, because that’s where change happens

This work is for men who want real transformation. It isn’t a quick fix or an erotic experience.

HOW I WORK

My approach is body-based and nervous-system led. Rather than adding more control, I help men soften, breathe and release tension, to find ways to resource themselves in their lives. Together we work with:

Awareness of your patterns and what drives them
Connection to your body and building your nervous system capacity
Your sexual energy, through conscious self pleasure and semen retention
Cultivating a deeper connection to your centre
How you show up in relationship
Your direction and purpose

WAYS TO WORK WITH ME

3-Month Programme · £1,350
Six one-to-one Zoom sessions, every two weeks, with voice note support and personal practices between calls.

6-Month Programme · £2,500
A deeper journey for men ready to fully embody the changes, with ongoing support throughout.

London VIP Day · £1,500
Six hours, in person. We begin with conversation, exploring where you are, what you want and what’s in the way. The day may include Wheel of Consent practices and a therapeutic tantric bodywork ritual, always with a clear learning purpose. Includes a 30 Day experiment ( after VIP day) weekly check-ins via email or voice note, and one 60-minute follow-up Zoom call.

Available until late January, and again from summer 2027.

Single Session · £250
A one-off online session for clarity and direction.

My programmes are priced on the journey, not the hours. The real change happens between sessions, through daily practice and the awareness you build in everyday life.

All work begins with a written agreement covering consent, boundaries and what to expect.

MY BACKGROUND

20+ years across tantra, somatic work and sexuality
12 years studying somatic sexology
15 years of therapeutic tantric bodywork with thousands of men
Somatic and trauma-resolution practitioner and nervous system coach
Trained in Bio-dynamic Craniosacral therapy and Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent
Author of Reclaim Your Masculine Energy

BEGIN WITH A CONVERSATION

If you feel the pull, send me an email or book a free 45-minute discovery call. We’ll explore where you are, what you really want, and whether this work is right for you.

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I’m Ellie Wilde, a Sex & Intimacy Coach for Men.
I welcome men & couples.

Ellie Wilde ~ Sex & Intimacy Coach for Men

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