Invitation
If you are queer, poly or ENM, curious about kink, and/or quietly tired of performing a version of your desire that feels like a mask, you are welcomed here.
The people who find me are often already having decent sex. Sometimes even good sex. What is missing is not skill or effort, but permission. Permission to want what you want. Permission to slow down. Permission to stop negotiating against your desires.
You might be drawn to BDSM or power dynamics, but the only scripts you have seen feel hollow, or unsafe. You may crave domination, surrender, worship, humiliation, or exposure, yet feel unsure how to name it without shame or misunderstanding. Or your desires may be softer, more sensual, more atmospheric, and you worry they are not “kinky enough” to belong anywhere.
My work is for people who want erotic exploration that feels nourishing, relational, embodied and honest. People who want to advocate for their desires without becoming hardened or performative. People who want sex and kink to feel expansive rather than dysregulating. People who are ready to listen to their body instead of forcing it to comply.
Services
I offer somatic sex, kink, and intimacy coaching through 1:1 containers, group coaching, and workshops.
Sessions are experiential and body-based. We begin by slowing down and noticing what is actually happening in your nervous system. From there, we explore desire, fear, activation, shutdown, pleasure, and longing as lived experiences rather than concepts. We work with breath, movement, sensation, voice, and relational inquiry to build real capacity for intimacy and erotic truth.
This work is not about learning the right language to sound confident. It is about learning how confidence feels in your body and how to return to it when things get tender, charged, or unfamiliar.
About Me
I came to this work through my own reckoning with grief, divorce, chronic pelvic pain, and a body that refused to be managed through insight alone. What healed me was not understanding more, but learning how to listen to my body. I was able to reclaim my own erotic self through the methods I teach my clients.
I am trained through the Somatica Institute and work at the intersection of somatics, attachment, kink, and relational repair. What makes my approach different is that I do not locate the problem in your communication skills or sexual knowledge. I locate it in the nervous system and in the shame conditioning that made desire unsafe long before you ever tried to speak it.
I center kink and fantasy as meaningful and emotionally intelligent, not as risks to manage or problems to solve. I am calm, attuned, and precise. I will not rush you. I will also not collude with self-abandonment.
A small but telling detail about my work: I often pause sessions to track breath or a flicker of sensation that others would ignore. Those moments are usually where the real shift begins.
Boundaries and Frame
This is professional coaching, not sex work and not erotic companionship.
Sessions are fully clothed. There is no genital touch and no kissing on the mouth. Touch may be used in a clear, negotiated way when appropriate, and consent is addressed in real time.
This work is not a fit for people seeking quick fixes, outcome-only results, or a dominant figure to perform power over them. It is also not for those who want intensity without responsibility.
Next Steps
I offer free consultation calls for 1:1 work, application-based entry for group coaching, and workshops throughout the year. For those who are curious but not ready, I am developing a podcast and a self-guided kink exploration kit designed to support thoughtful first steps.
After you reach out, we decide together whether this work is aligned and which container fits best.
Final Note
If you are reading and unsure whether your desires make sense, I want you to know this: wanting more truth in your erotic life is not excess. It is part of your innate ecosystem.
Clients are often surprised by how regulated they feel after this work. Sleep improves. Anxiety softens. Pleasure becomes stabilizing rather than overwhelming. As shame loosens, people stop abandoning themselves to keep the peace. They say no without overexplaining. They trust their inner signals.
The deepest shift is identity-level. People move from managing their desires to trusting them.
From wondering if they are too much to knowing exactly where they stand.
If that speaks to something in you, here are options for next steps to work with me:
Testimonials
“Thank you again for holding the space for me to process what needed to be released. I slept like a baby and feel more rooted today.”
“I don’t think I’ve had a [coach] who could bring me out of activation and back into balance the way Alisa did.”
“After working with Alisa, I feel deeply connected to my desires and confident in communicating them. This work changed how I show up everywhere in my life.”
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