Somatic Sexologist & Bodyworker

Lisbon, Portugal ; Online

By the time men reach me, they have usually swung to one extreme or the other. At one end, autopilot. Desire has faded, erections have become unreliable. At the other, sexuality has gone loud and compulsive, pornography running the show, sex that leaves them emptier rather than more fulfilled.

I don’t see any of this as something to fix. I see it as information. Your body is revealing where you’ve been performing, controlling, disconnecting, and overriding yourself.

Most men are only experiencing a fraction of what’s actually possible for them. The orgasm is happening, but the depth of sensation, pleasure, and aliveness available in their bodies stays unexplored. You cannot give from an empty well, and you cannot fully engage with life if you are not present. This work reconnects you to that.

If this feels familiar, keep reading. I work with a small number of men at a time, by application. Most men start with me online. You do not need to get on a plane to begin.

The container, and why it changes everything

The work starts online, and stays there for a good while. Hands-on work is not where we begin, and it is not the reason to come. It arrives only later, after we have worked together over months, and only if and when it is right for you.

What the work removes, from the very first session, is the job you never put down. You are a man who is always, in every room, partly managing the other person. Here there is no one to attend to but yourself. For most of the men I work with, this is the first time in years they are received without having to give anything back. Like setting down something heavy you forgot you were holding.

What changes

Presence, being in your own body in real time instead of three steps ahead. Sensation where there was numbness. Pleasure that lasts, because you are finally present for it. And the thread back to yourself, the part of you that wanted things before wanting got expensive.

Who you’ll be working with

Six years in this work, with men, almost exclusively. A readership of 50k+, and one-to-one hands-on work most people only write about. ASIS board-certified Somatic Sexologist. ACSB Somatic Bodyworker in training. Trained in Relational, Erotic and Emotional Fluency™, Sacred Theatre Somatics™, trauma-informed practice, the Wheel of Consent®, Right Use of Power™, and Scar Tissue Remediation.

I am, for what it’s worth, unshockable. Whatever you have been carrying that you assumed would be too much will not make me flinch. And I speak your language. I will not spiritualize what is plain or diminish this to fit a wellness mold. I see what runs between the lines, the things you have not said and were not planning to. The work is slow, curious, never clinical. None of it is too much.

What this is, and what it isn’t

This is not Tantra. It is not a massage. It is not an erotic service with a spiritual label on it. Nothing sexual is being sold to you here. If that is what you came for, we are not a fit.

It is not a session you book. It is a container you apply for, over months, because the thing you actually want does not happen in an hour. There is no one-off, no trial. And it does not begin with a “hey” or a “call me.” It begins with an application. How you make contact is already something I am reading.

Rates

Online coaching, 3-month container, from $3,000. In-person bodywork, from $1,500 for a series of three, for men already working with me online. I don’t offer standalone single sessions. Portugal immersions, from $15,000, for clients who have worked with me for at least six months.

How it begins

Begin with the application. If something in the first part of this landed in your body rather than just your head, that is the thing to pay attention to.

Apply here. Be prepared to screen via industry standards (verification and deposit). Once I have read your application, we will set up a brief call.

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I’m Amanda Mara, a Somatic Sexologist & Bodyworker.
I welcome all genders.

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