You
Perhaps you’ve tried therapy, meditation, maybe even bodywork. You feel self-aware, but something is still missing. Pleasure feels guarded, intimacy stays surface level, and you find yourself going through the motions of performance rather than feeling. Somewhere along the way, your body learned it’s not fully safe to open. If you’re ready to move more freely and have greater access to joy, to share yourself more fully without fear, to reconnect body, mind, and heart, and to step into greater agency and choice in your own life – I’d love to work with you.
What’s Possible
Our sexual well-being begins with the connection to our bodies and how we move through the world. I support people on their journey of self-discovery: away from bracing and performance, toward genuine feeling and presence. A better sex life may be a byproduct as I am here to help educate and guide you into a deeper, more honest relationship with yourself and your own pleasure. I am a touch-based practitioner, though not all sessions involve touch.
It’s very possible to develop a real relationship with your own desire and aliveness. Knowing what kind of touch is actually wonderful for you, and being able to ask for it. Showing up differently in relationship: more present, more attuned, and capable of genuine intimacy. A deeper capacity to voice what you need, and to hold your boundaries with clarity when sharing yourself with another.
Themes
I’ve worked with clients on:
Offerings
Personalized to meet your specific needs.
We begin with a screening process to make sure we’re aligned. Once confirmed, we have a 20-minute call to discuss your needs, set goals and intentions, and answer any questions before we meet.
ONE · VIRTUAL
Coaching Sessions — One-on-one sessions held over video. We walk through what you’re navigating around intimacy and sexuality, and I offer practices you can take into your own body and relationships.
$125/hour
TWO · IN PERSON
Somatic Sexology Sessions — A weaving of mind, body, and spirit. Somatic sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body) with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality). Sessions are client-led: held in slow, intentional touch and attunement to sensation, creating space for erotic reconnection, embodied self-discovery, and a more intimate relationship with your own pleasure.
$350/hour · 90-minute minimum
Kink exploration and couples sessions available — please inquire.
Somatic Sexology | Asheville, NC | Ray
About Me
I’m Ray – a Bodyworker and Somatic Sexologist based in Asheville, NC. What brought me to this work, and keeps me here, is the beautiful human capacity for transformation – watching someone reclaim access to their own body, pleasure, and aliveness never gets old. Every person’s journey is unique, and the creativity of co-creating our container is one of the things I find most inspiring about this work.
My background includes consent work, somatic practice, trauma-informed care, kink awareness, tantric-informed touch, and currently in training for Sexological Bodywork. My most formative teachers are Betty Martin on the Wheel of Consent and Peter Levine on Somatic Experiencing.
I welcome individuals of all genders and orientations — singles, couples, and poly relationships.
Booking
The best introductory email is thorough yet concise and contains:
- Your name
- Where you’re located
- Which offering you are interested in (Virtual Coaching or Somatic Sexology)
- What drew you to me, specifically
- What kind of deep shifts are you hoping for
Once you’ve reached out, I’ll send over a brief screening form to help me better understand where you’re at, what you’re hoping for, and how I can best support you. Completing the form is a request to work together, not a guarantee. You’ll hear directly from me with clear confirmation if and when your request is accepted.
Email: sun_ray0@proton.me
Testimonials
“I haven’t felt this grounded in years. Your energy is amazing – I left feeling more alive, safe, and seen than I have in a long time.” ~ T
“You bring more than presence, skilled touch, and arousal. There’s a heart-opening quality that makes the whole experience magical.” ~ M
“Unquestionably, you’re an intelligent, caring, patient, intuitive, and beautiful person, and you exceeded all of my expectations. You have a very relaxing personality, an exquisite touch, and a beguiling mind.” ~ B
“The real gift from our time together was the longing itself — the awakening of a desire to experience life more fully, more vividly. A widening of the soul, a deepening of awareness, a sense of being more porous to wonder, more receptive to beauty.” ~ S
