This is not medical advice! Please consult your physician with questions!
What is the prostate and its function in the experience of orgasm?
The prostate is a part of the endocrine system, which regulates hormone functions in the body. It is the size of a walnut and the texture of cartilage (like the end of your nose). It can be stimulated while the receiver is on their back or stomach. It can be “milked” slowly for multiple orgasms with the index, middle and pointer finger. This process can prevent prostate cancer and helps people suffering from Erectile Dysfunction and small to no visible ejaculations.
Toys may be used as well in the stimulation process. But, for anal training purposes start with the fingers and move up! You will also want to have a thick viscosity lube for the anus, water based lube, possible oil but not anything that would disrupt the natural balance of the rectum. Before the massage make sure the rectum is relaxed. Start with yogic breathing into the abdomen for 10 counts in and out. After that, start to massage the perineum and the shaft of the penis. Usually when the penis is erect you will feel the prostate more on the outside of the perineum; it feels like a bulb. Take your time with this and check in with your partner. This is also a nice time to practice tantric eye gazing with breath.
After the sphincter is relaxed, with the middle finger or smaller if needed, insert and make a “come hither” motion. The prostate is located 3 to 4 inches into the rectum. If receiver is on their back you will motion upwards, if on their stomach you will motion slightly downward. Sometimes, with the pressure added the receiver could feel like they need to pee, that is very common. Use breath to stabilize the sensation.
I would not rush this process, I think at least 30 minutes of anal massage before penetration is perfect! An hour in totality of prostate massage! I like to have 90 minutes prepared, 30 of massage, 30 of penetration and the rest for before and after care.
Also, making sure not to use too much force, the prostate is the size of a walnut that is divided into 2 halves with a channel in the middle. The technique for massage should be a dimes weight of pressure applied, with circular movements and taps according to the sensation you are wanting to achieve, almost like playing a tiny bongo. Multiple orgasms can be achieved through this process, this is where the sperm volume is located, this is how to achieve a healthy volume of ejaculate if someone is suffering from low volume ejaculate.
Be aware, that there are common issues with inflammation and the prostate. This acronym (NPAT) helps people that are currently experiencing prostate inflammation. Diet, exercise and weekly prostate massage can help individuals gain a greater sensation of pleasure. Consult your physician first!
NPAT stands for:
- Natural treatments (ALCAT, elimination diets, and wheat-free diets)
- Phytotherapy (pollen and quercetin together with probiotics)
- Alternative Treatments (acupuncture, prostate massage, pelvic rehabilitation and therapy)
- Total body (exercise, chronic stress management, lifestyle)
As NPAT demonstrates, prostate massage can be combined with other therapies as part of a holistic approach to treating prostatitis. As CP/CPPS may actually stem from areas in the body outside of the prostate, many people find success in using a multimodal approach to treating their prostatitis.
I also like to use aromatherapy for inhalation and color visualization. The prostate is connected to the root chakra; survival, structure and fear based conditioning. People might experience emotions while being penetrated, crying, sadness, anger and frustration. I like to label those emotions that come up with a color. Like anger being a soft red, sadness being a vivid blue (throat chakra) and green for the heart. Bring the emotions into the heart with the breath and eye gazing
Also, using a crystal of your choice to ground the energy of the orgasm. I always like to have an orgasm intention, like an invocation of what wants to be manifested for the person. So, as they are orgasming I can hold that intention into their heart. That is kundalini awakening, 9 cycles of orgasms into the heart through breath.