“Got one for you at the Marriott,” the man from her service said. “His name is Dan. Call me when you get to the lobby and I’ll give you the room number.” Room 312. Every time she knocked on a hotel room door, she declared herself a channel for God. She rarely knew who was…

Pop culture is rife with references to women being multi-orgasmic. Women are generally more sensual, sensitive, and nurturing than men. It is discouraging for a man to be told that you are not capable of being able to connect at the same heights as your female partner. Most men have experienced, at one point or…

This is not medical advice! Please consult your physician with questions! What is the prostate and its function in the experience of orgasm? The prostate is a part of the endocrine system, which regulates hormone functions in the body. It is the size of a walnut and the texture of cartilage (like the end of…

Mastering one’s sexual energy takes some practice. Whatever you train your body to do alone will make it that much easier or harder when you are with a beautiful woman in an ecstatic experience. This is why when young boys masturbate quickly for fear of being caught or out of shame, they train themselves to…

For the past few years, publications like Mic, The Atlantic, and even TIME have pointed out that millennials have been defined by “hookup culture.” Michelle Adams writes that “hook-up culture is definitely something entrenched in the millennial generation” in her 2012 article for Mic. What is “Hookup Culture” exactly? It’s still too early for any…

Single? You may be wondering how Tantra applies to you. How can you practice Tantra without a partner? How could Tantra enhance your single life? Tantra is a practice for everyone to first and foremost create a loving relationship and deeper connection with oneself. Singlehood is the perfect opportunity to start cultivating that relationship. Regardless…

Asking for What You Want Ask for what you want – everybody already knows that, right? How many times have we heard it? But has it gotten any easier? How do we really get comfortable with it? Asking for what we want is not a cool little sexual trick. It is a profoundly core issue;…

Before I became a sex and intimacy coach, I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about shame.  I understood the feeling of embarrassment, like when I said or did something stupid, but shame was not really on my radar screen. And there’s a reason why… my shame was so deeply repressed that I couldn’t…

The history books may remember the Summer of 2016 as a fight for our Democratic values as we faced, an unprecedented possibility, that a tyrannical demagogue could inhabit the most powerful position in the country, placing the entire world at risk. My own personal history book will record the Summer of 2016 as a time…

Silent Suffering – and – Superhero Syndrome When I worked as a professional companion it was not uncommon to hear clients ask, “Tell me what you like” or “What do you want me to do to you?” at the onset of our physical intimacy. Such requests came not only from clients, but men in my…

Sexual Transmutation (Master Your Wand of Light, Part 2) (Part 1: Mastering Your Wand of Light) We left off from discussing the power of orgasmic energy, cultivating and storing sexual energy by relaxing in the bliss of aroused states. Without the rush to climax, he can experience a deeper and more expanding field of arousal,…

Master Your Wand of Light “Lingam” is an empowering Tantra term for a man’s sex organ! It comes from Sanskrit and is best translated as the “Wand of Light and Power”. This wand is magical because it is a conduit that receives, stores and generates the power that creates life! Therefore it is a manifestor…

Pornography: Pros, Cons, and How to Watch It As a sex and Intimacy coach I decided since porn is a big part of today’s sex scene, I’d better know more about it, so I spent a good couple months watching…lots.  Very interesting experiment, I didn’t even need a vibrator. Instead of trying to answer whether…

Re-thinking Sex: Celebration, not Performance! What if sex were not a performance, but a celebration? Would that change how we feel about it and what we do with it? Would it change the way our hearts engage? Sacred Intimate for men, Brad-Leaf Amberheart gives some insight about sexual performance – erections and challenges thereof.

 Experiment: Excitement, Arousal, Breath and Transformation I have to admit–I love it when someone tells me, right before an erotic session, that they have a “premature ejaculation issue”. Why? Because I’ve guided numerous men in how to transform their so-called “premature ejaculation issue” into a source of great sexual fun. Over and over again, I’ve…