Here’s an article posted recently, interviewing Mare Simone – titled ‘A tantric sex surrogate explains how to increase intimacy for more powerful orgasms’.
In the vast and Cosmo-flavored world of sex tips, there’s an overabundance of technical advice in circulation.
Touch her g-spot like so. Try the corkscrew blowjob. Put a pillow under your ass.
That kind of stuff.
Yet, there’s next to nothing out there that offers advice on how to build the intimacy that makes those techniques actually work. After all, you can only trace the alphabet on someone’s prostate so well without the viable emotional connection that makes it really fucking good … regardless of how fleeting that connection may be.
That’s a problem that Mare Simone solves every day in her practice. Simone is a certified tantric educator, sex surrogate and author who helps men and women learn to clear emotional and physical sexual blocks and view sex as an empowering, helpful tool. Part of that work includes instructing couples and individuals on how to build and maintain intimacy during sex, partially because the ability to create intimacy leads to greater confidence, and partially because more powerful orgasms happen from what she describes as a more “open, vulnerable state.”
We’re not allowed to post the entire article here (respecting the original publisher) but here are a couple of highlights and then you can read the whole thing here: http://www.therooster.com/blog/tantric-sex-surrogate-explains-how-increase-intimacy-more-powerful-orgasms
Become a Pro at Eye Contact
… “I love to start couples facing each other, sitting up,” Simone says. “I have them talk about what they love about each other, what they’d love more of, and what they’d love to experience with each other (like a fantasy or a desire) … all while looking into each other’s eyes and breathing those words in. When you maintain eye contact while talking about sexual desires, it really builds intimacy before the touch, which makes the actual touch more powerful when it does happen. ..
Experiment with Face and Hand caressing
… One of the best positions she recommends for hand stuff is to have one partner place their hand downwards, and the other placing theirs upwards on top so they can feel the polar opposite of the other person. Then, from there, Simone suggests you play around with movement in your hands and fingers by stroking each other’s palms, wrists and fingertips. ..
Do a Little Dance
… On the more erotic end of the spectrum, Simone recommends you build tension and intimacy by dancing for your partner. It can be a sitting dance, or one standing up; a stripping thing or a more conservative one — whatever feels comfortable and gives your partner a display of your body. Of course, maintaining eye contact during the deed can make it that much more powerful.
If you crack up, you crack up. Try not to — we double dog dare you. Even if it’s the more masculine doing the dancing, Simone says the humor of it can cut through to the more relaxed, vulnerable place that makes the body more open for intimacy. …
Moan together, in sync
… “This can be immense if you can actually harmonize your orgasms,” Simone says. “But even if you can’t, sharing the same breath and sound intensifies things a lot. In tantra, energy moves on sound, so you double the energy when you sound together.” …