Learning to Love our Bodies   The body is your beginning. Yogic masters say that your body is: “Matter ascending toward spirit; spirit incarnating in matter.”  Many of us were socialized in a culture that separates flesh and sprit, and chastises the body as an abode of evil instinct. Yet, we are seduced by the media’s sex symbols that urge efforts…

“Got one for you at the Marriott,” the man from her service said. “His name is Dan. Call me when you get to the lobby and I’ll give you the room number.” Room 312. Every time she knocked on a hotel room door, she declared herself a channel for God. She rarely knew who was…

There’s a ceremony in Tantra that involves naming your genitalia. Some western traditions of sacred sexuality contain information about reconnecting to your genital sense of Self. I was intrigued with all this when I first began my studies of various traditions of sacred sex. There are so many layers of shame and confusion that prevent…

  Wikipedia defines Kink as “unconventional sexual practices.” We have all fantasized or secretly desired what may be considered unconventional. It’s the beautiful nature of our erotic minds to engage with ideas that create arousal in our bodies. Kink teaches us to accept all sides of our erotic minds and use our taboos and desires…

BLISS-touch (tantric touch) – what is it? The usual translation of the word tantra is “liberation through expansion.” How can we apply that to the connection through touch? Most people are very kinesthetic and they “meet and greet” the world and its beauty through the channel of touching. If you remember the girl Amelie from…

Sssshhhh… I want to share with you something very secret and very sacred. Something most people would never dream about which can totally change your life… A yoni massage. Yoni is the Sanskrit name for vagina, but it actually translates as womb or temple. Yoni is sacred and revered, unlike some of our common words…

The Sexual Priestess is an ancient archetype that is returning to our consciousness to be reactivated. The Sexual Priestess nourishes the cycles of orgasmic energy and inner rhythms and cycles of herself, her community and all of creation. In stepping into this archetype, we step into the wholeness of our power and repair our fragmented…

Sexual Trauma and PTSD keep painful memories from our past alive and present in our day to day lives. Hypnotherapy uses the power of your own mind to unlock the hold these memories have on you, by helping your brain process them in a gentle and effective way. PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome) remains largely a…

“ Once upon a time there was all but oneness: All was God and God was All, no separation, only oneness.  No conflicts, no duality, no past or future, only presence and light.  Then God became bored and so we created man and woman, so God may be entertained…… “ Something like this goes an…

If I would have to sum up my definition of Tantra and my practice in the most simplified way, I would say that it is bringing awareness, consciousness, light into your experience of your sensuality and sexuality.  Meditation and sex, sex and meditation. Awareness as such does not sound like anything too exiting.  In essence…

I love this ancient poem describing the sacred marriage ritual which was performed often yearly for more than two millennia between the ruling king and the highest ranking sexual priestess since the king’s right to reign depends on Ishtar, the ancient Goddess of Love’s favors. Inanna cries: My vulva, the horn, The Boat of Heaven,…

  We all know about IQ, emotional intelligence, kinesthetic intelligence, and so forth. But what do we know about sexual intelligence? The term isn’t well-known, nor is it something that has been developed traditionally. Sexual intelligence can be distinguished by two dimensions: The first involves sexual energy that brings forth life in all that is…

Breath is the essence of life. From our first moments fresh from the womb until the last sigh of death we are breathing. Most of the time we breathe reflexively without thinking; inhaling and exhaling our way through morning routines, work, train or car rides, exercise, and sleep. Using the breath consciously as a tool…

For the past few years, publications like Mic, The Atlantic, and even TIME have pointed out that millennials have been defined by “hookup culture.” Michelle Adams writes that “hook-up culture is definitely something entrenched in the millennial generation” in her 2012 article for Mic. What is “Hookup Culture” exactly? It’s still too early for any…

Single? You may be wondering how Tantra applies to you. How can you practice Tantra without a partner? How could Tantra enhance your single life? Tantra is a practice for everyone to first and foremost create a loving relationship and deeper connection with oneself. Singlehood is the perfect opportunity to start cultivating that relationship. Regardless…

Women, Sex, and Evolution It’s said that the feminine is rising.  While having developed their ‘masculine’ capacities over the past 50 years since the onset of the women’s movement, women are re-connecting with their ‘feminine’ essence.  However, women are often still socialized to be ashamed of their sexuality.  So what can a woman do to…

Why work with a Sacred Intimate? We all encounter at one point blocks that holds us back from living our full potential. For some the way they were raised taught them to have shame about their bodies or sex, for some a sexual violation brought distrust, pain or feeling  not safe in the world, for some…

What Is Your Erotic Signature? Signatures are like snowflakes; no two are alike. My signature is uniquely my own and has had small to large variations over the course of my life.  I have a signature I use when I’m in a hurry, I have a signature I use on legal documents, and I have a…

5 Easy Steps to Begin Unlocking Sexually Ecstatic Pleasure 1.  CREATE A SAFE SPACE. Most of us underestimate the importance of actually having a place where we are free to speak our mind and let our body be free. Create this space in your home, or find a place where you can go and feel safe with you…

A client said to me today, “I want to continue on this path of creating more erotic pleasure.  What would your advice be for me?” We had been immersed in euphoric pleasure for about 2 hours, so I felt clear as a bell.  Without even having to think about it, I let my guidance speak…

When we hear the word erotic we often think, “Oh my God, hot and endless passion and hard-action genital aerobics.  Erotic, like the word sex, has been narrowly defined in culture to mean plumbing and pumping of body parts. I use the term in a much larger context. I define erotic as “being truthful, vulnerable…

Touch in our modern culture is a very touchy subject.   There are right ways and there are wrong ways.  There are good ways and there are bad ways.  There are socially acceptable ways and there are socially condemned ways. In our society, the socially acceptable way to touch and receive touch is through massage.  However,…

This is a comprehensive compilation of much research and study on women’s sexual response. It incorporates information from Charles and Caroline Muir’s book Freeing the Female Orgasm and information from One Taste’s Orgasmic Meditation. It is adapted from Deborah Sundahl’s Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot book, and is based on my own experience receiving yoni…

What is Tantra? An Interview with Anna Marti Anna Marti is a “sex and spirit” counselor and intimacy coach in Portland, Oregon. Her approach to sexuality is influenced by her knowledge of Eastern spiritual sexuality practices (often collectively referred to as “Tantra”). Although her counseling work is non-denominational, this interview (conducted in her Portland office…

As a sex and intimacy coach, my most important job is to give people permission to have more fun. I’m a pleasure activist. My mantras are “Choose fun. Do it for you. Have it your way. Say yes to desires—and express them!” I encourage women to flirt, turn themselves on, and brag. I help men…