Touch, Touch and More Touch   Those of you who know me well know how much I love to touch. Touch brings me physical pleasure and emotional wellbeing. Here I will define what touch is for me.  Comfort:  Hugs are comfort:  hello hugs, good-bye hugs, I’m-so-happy-for-you hugs, I’m sorry-you’re-sad hugs.  Comfort is also putting…

  Helping Clients with Intimacy   When helping clients with intimacy I often ask, “What was your best sexual encounter?”  I do this to help them understand what it was that made it “the best” and what pieces of that we might recycle. Almost all their stories share an underlying feeling of being desired by…

  Supporting women’s journey through Sexual Healing Written by, Makena Andrews   “My life was never mine until I stepped into my sexual power.” Makena We all have a story to share, our own journey of your sexuality, a life we have lived full of tears as well as laughter. And we also all have…

  Women we can have it ALL. At the expense of no one. Sometimes it can be edgy for me to make any space for male feelings. I want to rage and rally and band together with other slighted women. I want to ask more of men in a demanding tone. I do not want…

  Mike says, “Hey, Sally, let’s go out to dinner.” Who is this for?  Mike or Sally? How can Sally decide if she doesn’t know the answer to that question? Why is there an offer? Does Mike just want to spend time with her? Does he want or feel he needs to soothe her emotions…

  Do you like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches? Peanut butter goes so well with jelly that we easily think of them together. But they can also stand alone–jelly on an English muffin, peanut butter on a Ritz cracker. You can have them together or separately. Desire and arousal are paired similarly; they can go together or they can…

Rippling waves of heat rise, shimmering, across the torso’s atmosphere, taking my tripping sweet heart by the hand, and pulling him, wide-eyed, excited — spun faster and faster — breath snags, catches, gets a bit ragged, dawning joy pumps the bellows with vigor. You (w)hol(l)y fill my eyes, O Shakti, burning. Yours are the feet…

Learning to Love our Bodies   The body is your beginning. Yogic masters say that your body is: “Matter ascending toward spirit; spirit incarnating in matter.”  Many of us were socialized in a culture that separates flesh and sprit, and chastises the body as an abode of evil instinct. Yet, we are seduced by the media’s sex symbols that urge efforts…