Learning to Love our Bodies   The body is your beginning. Yogic masters say that your body is: “Matter ascending toward spirit; spirit incarnating in matter.”  Many of us were socialized in a culture that separates flesh and sprit, and chastises the body as an abode of evil instinct. Yet, we are seduced by the media’s sex symbols that urge efforts…

BLISS-touch (tantric touch) – what is it? The usual translation of the word tantra is “liberation through expansion.” How can we apply that to the connection through touch? Most people are very kinesthetic and they “meet and greet” the world and its beauty through the channel of touching. If you remember the girl Amelie from…

How to live in big city and have a wholesome/awesome sustainable practice, even when you are most of the time overwhelmed with the wild speed of the never sleeping high tech city such as New York? It’s tough, is not it ? But where there is a will there is a way. You can definitely…

The Sexual Priestess is an ancient archetype that is returning to our consciousness to be reactivated. The Sexual Priestess nourishes the cycles of orgasmic energy and inner rhythms and cycles of herself, her community and all of creation. In stepping into this archetype, we step into the wholeness of our power and repair our fragmented…

“ Once upon a time there was all but oneness: All was God and God was All, no separation, only oneness.  No conflicts, no duality, no past or future, only presence and light.  Then God became bored and so we created man and woman, so God may be entertained…… “ Something like this goes an…

If I would have to sum up my definition of Tantra and my practice in the most simplified way, I would say that it is bringing awareness, consciousness, light into your experience of your sensuality and sexuality.  Meditation and sex, sex and meditation. Awareness as such does not sound like anything too exiting.  In essence…

Pop culture is rife with references to women being multi-orgasmic. Women are generally more sensual, sensitive, and nurturing than men. It is discouraging for a man to be told that you are not capable of being able to connect at the same heights as your female partner. Most men have experienced, at one point or…

This is the 3rd in a series of 3 articles. See: Female Sexual Dysfunction and Female Sexuality and Healing. 5 Elements Tantra Massage Step 3 – expanding how we touch and play! So – let us return to the visualisation of our vaginal numbness, as a small child who has frozen with fear. I am…

A Tantra Ritual for Couples In our day to day living we often get caught up in the activity and busyness of daily life.  We engage in the realm of personality and lose sight of the extraordinary miracle we each are.   But what if you made a conscious decision to bring the quality of devotion…

At our recent introductory tantra day, we spent the afternoon exploring the Wheel of Consent. It’s derived from the Three Minute Game, developed by Betty Martin. In this game, you ask your partner “How would you like me to touch you?” .Your partner says, for example “I’d like you to stroke my face”, and if…

Here’s an article posted recently, interviewing Mare Simone – titled ‘A tantric sex surrogate explains how to increase intimacy for more powerful orgasms’.   In the vast and Cosmo-flavored world of sex tips, there’s an overabundance of technical advice in circulation. Touch her g-spot like so. Try the corkscrew blowjob. Put a pillow under your…

Mastering one’s sexual energy takes some practice. Whatever you train your body to do alone will make it that much easier or harder when you are with a beautiful woman in an ecstatic experience. This is why when young boys masturbate quickly for fear of being caught or out of shame, they train themselves to…

  We all know about IQ, emotional intelligence, kinesthetic intelligence, and so forth. But what do we know about sexual intelligence? The term isn’t well-known, nor is it something that has been developed traditionally. Sexual intelligence can be distinguished by two dimensions: The first involves sexual energy that brings forth life in all that is…

Breath is the essence of life. From our first moments fresh from the womb until the last sigh of death we are breathing. Most of the time we breathe reflexively without thinking; inhaling and exhaling our way through morning routines, work, train or car rides, exercise, and sleep. Using the breath consciously as a tool…

For the past few years, publications like Mic, The Atlantic, and even TIME have pointed out that millennials have been defined by “hookup culture.” Michelle Adams writes that “hook-up culture is definitely something entrenched in the millennial generation” in her 2012 article for Mic. What is “Hookup Culture” exactly? It’s still too early for any…

Single? You may be wondering how Tantra applies to you. How can you practice Tantra without a partner? How could Tantra enhance your single life? Tantra is a practice for everyone to first and foremost create a loving relationship and deeper connection with oneself. Singlehood is the perfect opportunity to start cultivating that relationship. Regardless…

The history books may remember the Summer of 2016 as a fight for our Democratic values as we faced, an unprecedented possibility, that a tyrannical demagogue could inhabit the most powerful position in the country, placing the entire world at risk. My own personal history book will record the Summer of 2016 as a time…

Tantric Peace in the Face of Violence The reports of senseless violence are dominating the airwaves recently. Just when we think we’ve heard the last of it, another report comes in. Feelings of helplessness and anger arise and we have no idea what to do with them. How do we manage our own lives while…

Sexual Transmutation (Master Your Wand of Light, Part 2) (Part 1: Mastering Your Wand of Light) We left off from discussing the power of orgasmic energy, cultivating and storing sexual energy by relaxing in the bliss of aroused states. Without the rush to climax, he can experience a deeper and more expanding field of arousal,…

Master Your Wand of Light “Lingam” is an empowering Tantra term for a man’s sex organ! It comes from Sanskrit and is best translated as the “Wand of Light and Power”. This wand is magical because it is a conduit that receives, stores and generates the power that creates life! Therefore it is a manifestor…

Is It Better to Give or to Receive in Sex? Do you have a difficult time of just relaxing and receiving the pleasurable attention of your partner during foreplay? Or do you feel the need to return the favor right away? Sherry told me that she feels selfish when she just receives the pleasure that…

 Experiment: Excitement, Arousal, Breath and Transformation I have to admit–I love it when someone tells me, right before an erotic session, that they have a “premature ejaculation issue”. Why? Because I’ve guided numerous men in how to transform their so-called “premature ejaculation issue” into a source of great sexual fun. Over and over again, I’ve…

A client said to me today, “I want to continue on this path of creating more erotic pleasure.  What would your advice be for me?” We had been immersed in euphoric pleasure for about 2 hours, so I felt clear as a bell.  Without even having to think about it, I let my guidance speak…

Harnessing the Creative Potential of Pure Erotic Joy The potency and potential of what two sexually-charged male lovers hold in their bodies is tremendous!  Subconsciously, this is what keeps us searching, seeking, and longing for more hot erotic connection with other men. I’m here to propose that more men start to recognize that EVERY encounter…

When we hear the word erotic we often think, “Oh my God, hot and endless passion and hard-action genital aerobics.  Erotic, like the word sex, has been narrowly defined in culture to mean plumbing and pumping of body parts. I use the term in a much larger context. I define erotic as “being truthful, vulnerable…

By a Student I suspect that I entered the world of tantra like a lot of other people…by accident. I wasn’t really looking for it or even knew what it was. I am a married man, in my forties, with two great kids. I have been reasonably successful in the business world and I am…

What is Tantra? An Interview with Anna Marti Anna Marti is a “sex and spirit” counselor and intimacy coach in Portland, Oregon. Her approach to sexuality is influenced by her knowledge of Eastern spiritual sexuality practices (often collectively referred to as “Tantra”). Although her counseling work is non-denominational, this interview (conducted in her Portland office…