There’s a ceremony in Tantra that involves naming your genitalia. Some western traditions of sacred sexuality contain information about reconnecting to your genital sense of Self. I was intrigued with all this when I first began my studies of various traditions of sacred sex. There are so many layers of shame and confusion that prevent…

Sssshhhh… I want to share with you something very secret and very sacred. Something most people would never dream about which can totally change your life… A yoni massage. Yoni is the Sanskrit name for vagina, but it actually translates as womb or temple. Yoni is sacred and revered, unlike some of our common words…

Aging comes only to those who live long enough to experience it. If that’s you, do you view aging as a curse or a privilege, an end of a chapter or the beginning of new book? That depends on what your life looks like mentally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. No one prepared us for the…

You may be on the road to healing, but who can help you pick up the pieces of your sexual confidence, your loss of desire, your feelings about your new body, your need to be seen by your loved ones and accepted for who you are now.  Real conversations come from working one-on-one with a Sex…

Sexual Trauma and PTSD keep painful memories from our past alive and present in our day to day lives. Hypnotherapy uses the power of your own mind to unlock the hold these memories have on you, by helping your brain process them in a gentle and effective way. PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome) remains largely a…

The origin of the Yoni Egg: The Yoni Egg is made of a smooth, non-porous, semi-precious gemstone and carved into the shape of an egg, and is to be worn inside the vagina. It is believed that women have been practicing with stone eggs for over 5,000 years.   While originally used to improve the physical…

One of the many reasons that couples struggle in the bedroom is because they may have a different sexual style.  Sexual styles were first discovered by the psychologist Donald Mosher and popularized by David Schnarch in his best selling book “Passionate Marriage”. There are three types of sexual styles and while many of us can…

Before I became a sex and intimacy coach, I didn’t spend a lot of time thinking about shame.  I understood the feeling of embarrassment, like when I said or did something stupid, but shame was not really on my radar screen. And there’s a reason why… my shame was so deeply repressed that I couldn’t…

The history books may remember the Summer of 2016 as a fight for our Democratic values as we faced, an unprecedented possibility, that a tyrannical demagogue could inhabit the most powerful position in the country, placing the entire world at risk. My own personal history book will record the Summer of 2016 as a time…

How my Yoni Massage brought unexpected healing and orgasm From Mare Simone: Enjoy this powerfully vulnerable, personal review about Tantric Touch-Therapy and how it helped deepen Melissa’s Love-Life! Honored to be able to help! I celebrate transformations from NUMB to YUM!!   As I have been there too. Can you relate to Numbness or Pain where there should be pleasure?…

Why work with a Sacred Intimate? We all encounter at one point blocks that holds us back from living our full potential. For some the way they were raised taught them to have shame about their bodies or sex, for some a sexual violation brought distrust, pain or feeling  not safe in the world, for some…

How Love and Desire Differ Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?”  And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?”  You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of.   Love feels safe and secure, like a melting…

Re-thinking Sex: Celebration, not Performance! What if sex were not a performance, but a celebration? Would that change how we feel about it and what we do with it? Would it change the way our hearts engage? Sacred Intimate for men, Brad-Leaf Amberheart gives some insight about sexual performance – erections and challenges thereof.

At one time in my life, I had the most wonderful kisser for a boyfriend, so I was surprised when after time I got bored with our kissing. Then I discovered why. He was always kissing me (active) and I was always receiving his gestures. As soon as I realized I needed to be more…

Touch in our modern culture is a very touchy subject.   There are right ways and there are wrong ways.  There are good ways and there are bad ways.  There are socially acceptable ways and there are socially condemned ways. In our society, the socially acceptable way to touch and receive touch is through massage.  However,…

This is a comprehensive compilation of much research and study on women’s sexual response. It incorporates information from Charles and Caroline Muir’s book Freeing the Female Orgasm and information from One Taste’s Orgasmic Meditation. It is adapted from Deborah Sundahl’s Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot book, and is based on my own experience receiving yoni…

What is Tantra? An Interview with Anna Marti Anna Marti is a “sex and spirit” counselor and intimacy coach in Portland, Oregon. Her approach to sexuality is influenced by her knowledge of Eastern spiritual sexuality practices (often collectively referred to as “Tantra”). Although her counseling work is non-denominational, this interview (conducted in her Portland office…